The problem with Trigger Warnings is that they often exacerbate the pain than they seek to protect us from. They also propose a world where healing from many different traumas is homogenised into a synthetic mass agreement on what constitutes pain, damage, confrontation or peace. The synthesis is too simplistic and is in fact more demagogic than pedagogic: it speaks to a mass lie of consensus rather than enabling people to learn their way through their horrors.
I was living in Sydney, Australia the day that my daughter died of a combination of pneumonia, a badly administered anaesthetic following dentistry work and her disability. She died in the room next to mine. I discovered her in the morning.
Heading down to the hospice this week to have a meeting about funding for Mum. At least that’s what the health people hope. They hope that we can agree funding but get past actual placement for this 81 year-old. Because this tax and National Insurance paying, born in 1932, ex-Navy, ex-British Railways, ex-Hospital Radio DJ, […]
Where is My Dead Husband?: I feel mad in the sense of not sane. I feel scared that I am making bad decisions. I feel weak and poor in all possible ways. I feel alone. But I don’t feel as shocked, scared and abandoned as…